Family issues can be devastating, and it can be hard to know how to deal with them at the time…so it can be tempting to just not deal with them. many people regret taking that path when they get older. Just because they really didn’t realize what family means.
Today,the family affair is in shambles and broken to the core, nobody wants to be corrected for a mistakes, though a bit of it might be true or not, sometimes you might wonder if they’re your legitimate parents or siblings.There’s depression, desperation, anger issues, trust issues, mental torture that may in a way lead you to take a path that you might regret, “the high road”. There’s this mainstream narrative “if someone is toxic ,you cut them off” Even if It’s your own mum or dad?, But sometimes someone tells you they are still your parents and that the sad truth is, it’s a fact that cant and won’t ever change. I really don’t know,but it’s my view, this has caused broken relations between us in the family, that you become so fed up and you want to separate, yet you’re still Young , we’ve seen and heard of people who left their families, and the question is, “who is to blame for this”. At times parents can piss us off oftentimes without knowing, really? No, and Yes.
the small comments they always make when we do little mistakes really hurts ,can’t they sometimes just overlook and let some pass,this really kill’s our confidence, again can’t parents and our elder siblings learn to apologise for any mistakes, even being sarcastic In commenting on our views may seem small though it hurts,and and this kill’s our self esteem .
Am writing this and thinking it totally clashes with the faith am in, that a child should always remain a child and always a subject to reproof, whether wrong or right, then that’s the controversy, the reason for this parentless generation, no one accepts a mistake, everyone gets high, we fall out, our egos can’t be lowered, no solution, then what?, a broken family.
Be honest —if today was the last day of your life, would you regret an unresolved fight or issue with a family member?
It’s easy to let anger overtake you and cause you to do something you regret, like treating a family member poorly or cutting them off entirely. But this is something you will likely regret in the future, just like the participants in the study. There are steps you can take now to solve these problems to keep your family close and rid yourself of any regrets.Repeat the old adage “You can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family.” We’ve all heard this saying before. You can choose whichever friends you like, and if a friend wrongs you, then you can think about whether they’re healthy for you, and remove them from your life if you decide they’re not.
However, you can’t choose your family. Just because you swear them off doesn’t mean they’re not related to you. You will still share a bond stronger than anything else: blood. This means that you do have to deal with their faults, just like they have to deal with yours. But if family is important to you, then this is something you’ll remember, no matter how deep the rift is.
In addition, no one Wins in a family disagreement . The only winner is a settled feud. Putting pride aside to come to agreement requires compromise of both parties usually. The happiest relationships are the ones that are built on trust and compromise.
This also includes explaining emotions tied with the problem or issue . Usually with an argument or disagreement, it can be difficult to come to terms after the fight ends due to hurt feelings, bruised pride or fatigue from the emotions associated with the disagreement. Take some time to talk with everyone about the problem and emotions tied around the issue and any consequential emotions and feelings as well.
And remember what upset them, so you can avoid it in the future.
Let’s avoid the gap.
Cliff writes 
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